Ideas For How To Be A Better Mom

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By Hope Wilbanks

Are you a good mom?

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Most women have some fears about whether or not they will be a good mother. This is very normal. More commonly, women who did not have a very good relationship with their own mother tend to feel like they might not be a good mother themselves because of this poor bond they had with their mom. This isn’t necessarily true. Regardless of whether or not you had the best mom in the world, you can be a great mom. And if you feel like you’ve been slacking in the mother department lately, these pointers will give you some good ideas on how to be a better mom.

Go Easy On Yourself

The first thing you have to do is cut yourself some slack. We mothers tend to judge ourselves far too harshly when it comes to our parenting skills. The simple fact that you are searching for ways to become a better mother means you are concerned about your child’s well-being. If not, you wouldn’t care enough to better yourself or your child.

Don’t be so quick to think that you aren’t a good enough mom to your child, either. You are the very best mother your child could have. Maybe you don’t do everything perfectly, but nobody does. So go easy on yourself.

Spend special time with your children
Spend special time with your children

Remember Your Child Isn’t a Cookie Cutter

It is also important to remember to treat each child as their own person. One of the biggest mistakes parents make is thinking that all their children should act the same and be treated in the same manner. This isn’t so. Just as you are not the same as a sibling or a friend, neither is your child the exact same person as their sibling. You have to take time to get to know them individually.

Get To Know Your Child

The most important piece of advice is very simple. Get to know your child. The more time you spend with your child, the more you will get to know each other. Far too often, parents expect their children to just grow up decent, respectable people who will take care of their parents in their old age. However, if you haven’t built a solid relationship with your child throughout his entire life, there will be very little, if anything, there once your child reaches adulthood.

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Comments

Anamika 2 years ago

Nice Article! A Mom is the first influence in the life of a child and the outlook that the child will form towards life depends a lot on the parents. The attitude, views, goals, perspective on life etc of a child depend to a larger extent on what he learned from parents. So we should try to be the best for our children.

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Hope Wilbanks Hub Author 2 years ago

Very true! :)

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EleanorL 2 years ago

There is always room for self-improvement as parents. Thanks.

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Hope Wilbanks Hub Author 2 years ago

I agree, RevLady. Believe it or not, I just recently realized this very important point about my own children. I've been treating them both the same, expecting the same from them both, but the reality is, they are NOT the same. They are very different, so I have to dole out punishments and rewards accordingly. And it seems like since I have come to this realization and have changed the way I've been doing things, I've noticed them both changing in the way they react, respond, and relate to me, too.

One thing's for sure...parenting isn't easy. It's a learning process. You can never become complacent as a parent.

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RevLady Level 3 Commenter 2 years ago

Good suggestions. I think it is important, as you stated, to get to know children as individuals, particularly as they age. This is crucial for treating each child fairly, which can only happen when treated according to their individual temperaments, behaviors, needs, and so forth.

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