4 Warning Signs of Marital Trouble - Is Your Marriage in Trouble?
64While statistics show that both marriage and divorce rates have dropped in the last few years, according to DivorceMag.com, about 10% of the American population is divorced. Divorce happens for a reason, and it rarely happens overnight. It is a slow and steady process that builds and builds over time. There are often many signs and warnings that a marriage is heading for trouble. The problem is that too many spouses ignore or choose not to see these warning signs.
Remember Your Vows
Warning Sign #1: No Communication
Communication is essential to a healthy relationship with your spouse. Turning a deaf ear to the needs or desires of your significant other will cause great distress in your marriage. Communication involves talking, but more importantly, it involves listening.
Warning Sign #2: Dishonesty
Lying is never a good thing in any relationship. A marriage must be built on trust, and trust only comes with pure honesty. Hiding little things, like a new pair of shoes or a new golf club, will lead to hiding bigger things, like bank accounts. Once these deceptions slowly come to light, your spouse will not trust you. Once trust is wounded, it is very difficult to gain it back.
Warning Sign #3: Disrespect
Respect is key and a necessity in marriage. You must each respect one another. If not, your marriage could be doomed from the beginning. What often happens is after the first year or so of marriage, you begin to grow more comfortable with each other and slowly the walls start coming down. If you aren’t careful, you start nit-picking at each other for the little flaws that you once thought were cute. This disrespect will grow over time, until it creates a violent and angry relationship in your marriage.
Warning Sign #4: No Time For Each Other
An important thing to remember is that, in any marriage, you have to make special time to spend together. You built your relationship through dating and getting to know one another. That has to continue on throughout your married life. Don’t let the busyness of life and your careers cause you to neglect your spouse.
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That is a fantastic addition to the list, Mighty Mom!! I totally agree. You could say that sharing is a part of respect, because when you respect others (whether it's a spouse or otherwise), you are more willing to share. :)
Hope, nicely thought-out and written hub. You've definitely hit on the four foundations of a good marriage.
You asked for other warning signs. Hmmm. How about SHARING? If one spouse starts pulling away you can usually see/feel it. Where decisions and chores once were shared, now one person is just "going through the motions" without much emotional involvement. Except when it comes to the remote. If my husband suddenly started offering me 50% time with the TV remote -- I'd be worried:-)!
Thanks guys! I appreciate your kind words. Glad you enjoyed reading this one. :)
Shadesbreath, I also agree with you and you have hit it on the nose as it definitely does not come easily. :)
Communication is key, I agree. Like, actual communication too. I think sometimes people mistake arguing or active listening for actual communication. I think people need to be taught the skill in many cases; it doesn't come easily. And I think you're dead on with trust too. You blow it, even on something lame like a golf club, you're broken something really valuable.
This information is so true I wonder how many will turn a deaf ear to this topic !! If you don't have communication or qualtiy and the other spouse has selective hearing then you have nothing. Good Hub!!!
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Rismayanti 2 years ago
you are correct..great hub. I will follow you, so how to cope and handle with all those, to escape from worst marriage situation?, trust and communication